100 posts.

Hey there! so this post is my 100th post on this blog, mad right? I made this blog in july of last year, finally choosing to come back to blogging after a 4 year break away from it. I had forgotten for sure how tough blogging can be, but i very much enjoy it too! for my 100th post, i thought i would do a round up of some of my notable posts and other little random bits of information.

since July paint the face of anxiety has been viewed 2,973 times.

100 posts have a total of 43 comments.

8 of the 100 posts are makeup looks.

9 are in my emotionally broken series.

43 comments have been left on various posts.

My first post was posted on the 13th of July 2018 and it was a look based on the bisexual pride flag.

Continuing the pride looks i did a look for LGBTQ+ pride overall, taking over 3 hours to draw on by hand.


On the 14th of august 2018 i turned 26 and i posted 26 things i had learnt in 26 years.

My first post in my emotionally broken series was posted on the 18th of july 2018, letting everyone into the mess in my head.

I got my first pr sample in the form of the mask time subscription box
on the 16th of august 2018, many squeals happened!

I posted my first post in my therapy diaries series on the 28th of September 2018, the day after i started therapy.

I wrote & published my very first sponsored post on the 6th of November 2018 about movies that mean christmas to me.

On the 4th of December i posted my haul from the first time i got involved in black Friday, i very much enjoyed myself!

On the 28th of December i showed you what i got for christmas and talked about the first christmas i had enjoyed in years.

On the 7th of January i talked about the fear of therapy coming to an end, the fear of my progress going backwards.

On the 24th of February i talked about the past, and how you cant change it and it does shape you, but thats ok after a very interesting dream.

On the 2nd of march, i had my final therapy session and called an end to that chapter in my life, hoping to carry what she taught me forward.

And on the 8th of march i finally played with makeup again for the first time in months and did this elemental mermaid look, with glitter of course!.

I can find it hard to find the motivation and the time to write my blog i haven’t been has committed to it as i would like, but looking back on everything i have done reminds me that ive done more than i think!

I hope to keep my blog up for another 100 posts and more, and i hope to continue trying to grow it this year, and thankyou for anyone that is reading this, so much!

Cath x

Emotionally Broken – Stretched too thin.


It can be really frustrating to really struggle to not sound happy when i write you know that? even just my normal greeting in blog posts “hey there” sounds happy.

But i dont want to sound happy in this post, i want to sound real, and i want to be real and raw with everyone right now because ive never been too good at hiding my feelings. I have felt stretched really thin lately, i have felt as if im giving 100% of myself to so many different things at this point that its only a matter of time before i break. And the thing is i have been asking for help, i have given in and said ok other people take some of this off me…but it hasnt really happened.

So ive continued going along as i have been, and im just currently waiting for the dam to break. Recovery is tough, and since i finished therapy i have felt this overwhelming pressure to continue improving and pushing myself and this pressure to not struggle or be sad, as if a slight break means disaster. Im very conscious of everyone watching me, im conscious of the pressure to get better from family, friends and just the world in general. Im also very conscious of the fact that the whole way through this journey with therapy it has felt like my last chance, and i continue to feel this way and that terrifies me, if i slip too much at any point, thats it…too many years have i been like this, and it takes years to recover, i feel like if i have a big slip thats just going to be the end, and i know it doesn’t work like that, but maybe i am right? maybe this is the last chance i have to get better, and that is very scary.

It feels like im drowning right now, and the frustrating thing is that i feel like im shouting, that im screaming from the rooftops that this is too much! i need help! i need people! and it falls on deaf ears.

I wasn’t going to write this blog post originally, feeling like i was being attention seeking or silly but in the end, i write this blog to help others, i want to make sure no one feels alone, and part of that is being honest when im not doing very well. I suppose the biggest difference between right now, and when i would have a bad moment before therapy, is that i am not just giving in and letting everything and everyone overtake and overwhelm me, im still fighting even when it feels almost impossible at this point.

I feel like i slipped under the surface again, but this time im going to continue fighting to break the surface, because i just cant give up this time.

Im not giving up on myself again.

Cath x

The therapy diaries – The final session.


Hey there! So, this is going to be my last post in my therapy diaries series for a while, because today i had my last session until my follow up in a few months. Ive been really scared knowing this was coming, because i have come a really long way since September but facing the very real reality that it could all just fall down around me without the support of seeing a therapist, its been sitting in the back of my head for a while now that it was almost the end.

But, sat talking to her i actually felt very positive, its something ive found since day one that she has a very positive effect on me, 9 times out of 10 ive come out from therapy happy and feeling really positive so im not surprised she helped me feel better about everything

we talked about how the last 2 weeks have been and then went over what im taking away from therapy, and i really am taking away a lot.

When i met her at the very end of august, she met a girl drowning, so reached in and pulled me out, and gave me a chance to learn how to walk on the surface again. For years, ive been just under the surface fighting tooth & nail to reach the surface, ive managed to break the surface every now and then for a breather before it would begin all over again. But when freya met me i had finally given up, i couldnt keep fighting a fight that felt impossible anymore, so i was letting myself drown, and she reached in and made it so that i was comfortably on the surface for the first time in years.

when i  went to my first session she challenged me. She challenged the thoughts i had always taken as gospel, she challenged the way i saw my world, and most importantly she challenged the fact that i was there, if i had completely given up, why was i turning up to therapy?

And that worked, i had never been challenged before in the right way, and she did it without hatred or discourse but tactfully. We took weeks working on why i wanted to get better in the first place, and getting me to a place where i could with a lot of help make a list of goals for myself.

And the goals i made were –

Reducing self criticism – tick
Getting out more often & regularly – tick
Becoming more independent when im out – tick
start getting out on mondays – tick
see my nan on fridays – tick
become less scared of change – tick
Begin to like myself – tick

All of these where not made with the thought that i would actually manage them! but i have actually managed to do all of them, and to think i was so terrified of setting them because i thought i wouldn’t manage them.

In fact, i have become so ok with goals now, that under my own steam i made and wrote down 2019 goals. Massive, for someone whos scared of what her future holds.

Over the past few months, we have worked on so much but the underlining current was me. It was no longer ok if i did things because of or for other people, it had to be for me, it was no longer ok to hate myself because i should like me, i had to learn to stop bullying me, and i had to learn that i was aloud to work towards being the me i want to be.

I have a follow up with her in June, and i cant believe im going to type this but i cant wait to see what i can do to tell her.

I have spent my 20s and most of my teens broken, drowning in the sea that is mental illness. But maybe just maybe, i dont have to live the rest of my life that way.

Im finally going in the right direction.

Cath x

Emotionally Broken – The past shapes us, and thats ok.


Hey there! so i had a dream the other night, and it got me thinking. I dreamt that we had invented time travel (bare with me here), and we could go back to any time period in our lives that we wanted too and would be our previous selves but with the knowledge we had now, and could change anything that we wanted too in that time period as long as we understood it would change our future. So i time travelled back to when i was 15, i was seeing all this as if i was watching a movie basically but sometimes i felt like i was the me i could see….dreams are so weird!

Anyway, as soon as i went back into my 15 year old self i made a tonne of changes, i started loosing weight as soon as i could, i dropped the toxic friends, stopped being obsessive and clingy with some other friends and spent more time with the friends i knew were good people. I went back to the specialist education centre i was under and finished my schooling there, getting more, better GCSEs. I changed my style, hair & makeup to suit what i wanted, using the skills i had taken with me to skip the embarrassing stages! I did the college course i started at 16, still at home but i threw all of my effort in.

I saw all of this in like a snippet almost montage like way, seeing myself in situations i hate how i acted acting correctly and fixing mistakes. Has i grew up, i lost the weight and kept it off, i got my first job but i didn’t make any of the mistakes i made there, i learnt to drive, i got a boyfriend, because i could drive i didn’t have to leave the first job i had and i got a full time job there.

And then, when i hit 20 i came back to the future, the future i had fixed right?

And i came back to 26 year old me, fat, unable to work, riddled with mental illness and very single.

The last thing i heard before i woke up was a voice, no idea whos saying “you cant change the past”.

And they are right.

This dream has been on my mind all day, you see ive had the “would you change the past if you could” chat a number of times, and though i would of gladly changed it as a teenager, as an adult for years now ive always said that everything that happens in your life is a lesson you are meant to learn, the past shapes you so no i wouldn’t want to change it.

And thats the thing, in my dream i corrected so many tiny little mistakes that have stayed with me for so long. But those tiny mistakes? they are what shape us, the embarrassing memories and awkward moments, all of these are lessons no matter how small.

And so was the big things, the loosing weight earlier than what i did and keeping it off, the learning to drive, the school choices, friend choices and everything else in between all shaped me into who i am today.

Im not immune to wishing i could change things, and the dream proves that its in my head at least. But as the dream showed, it isnt what is important in the long run.

Because the thing is, if i hadn’t gone through these things i wouldn’t be who i am, and though it is a big work in progress i am beginning to not mind the person behind the mess. And of course, without the past, i wouldn’t have the things i love in my life too.

The dream was a reminder to me that the past is important, and while you shouldn’t live in the past (though the dream ran with that) it shapes you, and you cant and shouldn’t change it.

Cath x

The Therapy Diaries – A Positive Out look.


Hey there! so i haven’t done an update on therapy in a little while, so i thought now was as good a time as any to let you know how its going. So at the time of writing i got back from therapy a couple of hours ago, im on the last 3 sessions i have with her now, so we have split them up over 6 weeks and this was the first one with a two week gap in between.

I had a lot happen over these 2 weeks, i found out that asking for my benefits being taken down to be reconsidered had been declined, friendship troubles & trying to nurse a poorly guinea pig back to health who sadly lost his fight, it wasn’t a quiet 2 weeks!

But we also spoke a lot about how i am slowly understanding and accepting that recovery in the end can only be something you do for yourself and im also beginning to want to do it for myself too. When i met my therapist i had basically given up, i didnt think i had any other chance any more but thanks too my therapist, i found hope again.

I found a reason to fight, and for once it wasn’t in someone else, for once it was for me, i wasn’t fighting for anyone else but myself and my therapist had pushed me in the direction to do so. And now, i still feel that way, i want to recover, i want to get better but i want to do it for myself, of course other people come into my thinking but mainly its for me and what i want. And thats how it should be, i should be recovering for myself, because after all i have to put in all the hard work!

So therapy is really positive at the moment, we have been doing positive qualities diaries and ive actually managed to think of positive qualities that i think i have myself now, and im not just going by what other people tell me.

And being able to write these down, actually started with the guinea pig i mentioned above. My mum works in a primary school, and they have guinea pigs and one of them got very poorly so myself and my mum gave him the best chance we could and syringe fed him every hours for most of a day. Sadly, he didnt make it but doing this made me think something.

Regardless of the human or the creature, if they need me i will help, a bumble bee or a great white shark, my best friend or my school bully if they need someone i will always be willing to help. And it was then that i knew what my first positive quality trait was, and that i also knew that little marmite had taught me a valuable lesson.

So even with a lot of things happening, im feeling really positive right now and thats, well thats lovely.

I hope it sticks.

Cath x

*Herbal Salve 5% CBD Oil Review.



Hey there! so today im bringing you a review of something ive wanted to try for a while now, CBD oil. Its been toted around for a while now as a natural, powerful way to treat anxiety, depression and a long list of various pains. But due to the price ive never taken the leap to try it, so i was very excited to be sent 5% CBD oil from salve herbal.

Salve herbal was formed because the owners struggled to find the right kind of high quality CBD on the market that could help manage things like anxiety. They sell three different strengths, 5% which is the one i have and thats £19.99, 10% which is and 20% which is.

So the CBD is in a small glass bottle with a dropper, and what you do is put a few drops under your tongue, hold it for 60 seconds then swallow and you are meant to do this twice a day, adjusting the amount of drops as you go along depending on the strength you need.

The biggest thing that you will notice about CBD oil, and something i was warned about too is that this stuff tastes horrible! which to be honest is no surprise, considering what it comes from. If you have ever smelt hemp, you will know its not exactly the kind of thing you would put in a candle!

And yeah, its tastes awful, someone discribed it as old socks but i think it tastes more like dirt. Its not nice at all, but if you buck it up and have a strongly flavoured drink ready to wash it down your ok! i tended to have juice or a fizzy drink ready to wash it down and that was fine its honestly not the worst thing in the whole world to have to taste!

I started with 3 drops but i quickly increased the drops up very quickly, i took it morning and night and have been for a couple of weeks now, to see if would help with my anxiety, depression and pain in my joints and aching overall at all.

and has it?

sort of.

I think that if i really wanted to feel a massive difference i would have to go for a high percentage, but even on the 5% i did find some differences. My pain is still bad and sometimes overwhelming but it did help with the aching in my legs and the fact that i sometimes get restless legs from the pain, it helped that. Ive felt calmer, even with my anxiety being at its normally high levels i have felt over all just more peaceful and calmer and this is the only thing i can put it down too really!

I dont honestly think i would buy this myself, but this is purely down to feeling that it isnt worth the price tag for what it does for me. if i could afford the higher percentage i would for sure give it a go but i just cant at the moment.

However, i am glad i tried it, the restless legs have been an issue for a while and finding a way to ease them is really nice, its worth the taste!

Have you tried CBD oil? did it help you?

Cath x

I was sent this product free of charge to consider it for review, this does not effect my opinion what so ever.

Emotionally Broken – Because i dont have a chance.


Hey there! so i haven’t done a emotionally broken post in a while, but ive had some stuff on my mind lately that i wanted to write about.

I am a big fan and follower of critical role, a dnd twitch stream that is basically amazing. The weekend just gone in LA they had a critical role art show & live show, the whole weekend looked completely amazing. And even though it wouldn’t be realistic to think that i could go to that even if i was well & recovered, i still felt very jealous.

And i tend to feel this every time something like this pops up, comic cons and live events, gigs etc i get jealous. I stalk the pictures and the tweets and make it worse for myself, soaking it up beating myself up for something that is so far from my reach.

And yesterday i was thinking, why do i do this? with something like the LA shows, even if i was recovered and well its not realistic to think i could go to something like that, its across the world and of course money is always a factor!

But i dont think that is the point really, its because regardless of anything else, i dont have a chance to begin with. Theres no “oh i wish i lived closer!” or “if i had the money”, mines more “going to tescos 10 minutes away takes 3 days of prep and 2 days of recovery, LA is like going to the moon for me”.

The fact that i couldn’t have that, that regardless of anything else i cant go to shows, gigs, cons, i cant meet up with friends or go out to dinner, i cant even go to supermarkets or go for a walk to the park.

I dont even have the chance, and thats what really gets me.

Soo many people have told me over the years that you never know what peoples lives are really like, that i should never be jealous, but without really meaning too i am. Because it doesn’t always matter about the life i dont see, they are still getting something i dont have the chance at.

Thats enough.

And then of course the guilt kicks in, i dont want to be jealous, of course id rather be happy with what i have, but im not and that sucks. I mean of course its not abnormal to be unhappy with what you have, but it doesn’t make it suck any less.

But, of course you have to find ways to get through these things, so i tell myself that one day i will get what i want, and i will be able to go to gig and cons and see friends and live life.

Its the only thing you can do, and sometimes it can feel like im feeding myself the biggest lie. But i need it to keep going, so i keep going, with the hope that one day i wont stare at my phone wishing i was there, but i will stare at pictures a few days later smiling because it was, that i actually had the chance.

Cath x

*Thrive: mental wellness app.

 


Hey there! So today i have a review of a very interesting phone app for you, I was very kindly given the chance to try out the thrive: mental wellbeing app for IOS. Thrive, is a app made to help prevent and manage stress, anxiety and depression, it also contains a lot of cognitive behaviour therapy based ideas and activities.

Everyday when you log into the app you see the mood meter, what you choose on the mood meter then will decide what you see next.

So if you go closer to the sun (happier/positive mood) you then get –

You then get to choose why you are happy.

Then if you go closer to the stormy clouds –

You then choose why you are feeling this way
Then you add more detail
Describe the reactions you had

And what you did, you can choose to add a custom bubble (as you can see from my nothing and my typoed nothinf) or to remove some and have different ones come in with the more button.

You then pick the thoughts that you had and where making you feel shitty
And finally, you can pick a logical, more positive way to see the situation

This mood meter comes up the first time you log into the app everyday, but you can also access it at any time.

Im rather meh about the mood meter, it feels good to do when your in a good mood but if your in a not so good mood you dont always wanna explain why or try and be logical about it,i think it should be more optional than it currently is.

The first time you log into the app and once a week there after you do a questionnaire, if you have ever done any kind of CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) you will likely know this questionnaire as you tend to do this at the start of every session.

Its a lengthy questionnaire so i haven’t shown all the questions, but once you have answered all of them you get your results –

I understand why they do this, and that they do these quizzes and the responses and the suggestions because of the “crisis”. but honestly, they need to make this work a bit differently! im a sufferer of severe anxiety, my anxiety will always be severe even on a good day. For me its not a crisis, maybe asking what is normal for you at first would be a good step? so shouting crisis at people doesn’t scare or upset someone.
Once your logged in,you go to your daily goals you get 3 goals a day, generally the top one is one of the apps that either help with relaxation or distraction. The middle one is always doing something like going for a walk, talking to someone etc and the end one always tends to be applied relaxation.

You collect points and levels as you achieve your goals, you can also choose to do any of the above activities at any time,they are all for relaxation, calming down or distraction. my personal favourite is the deep muscle relaxation, for 3 minutes a calming female voice will talk you through tensing each part of your body and then slowly relaxing them. Ive never liked this type of thing, but i actually find that this one really calms me down and helps.

There are a lot of different options with the apps which is great, but i do find that some the activities can be difficult to understand. smart words was one that i really struggled with, i couldn’t figure out how to use it for ages! and if you click one of them through your goals and not the home screen you dont get any instruction, it drove me mad! it took me ages to figure out there was someone talking, making everything clearer would help a lot.

You can also see your progress weekly, and see your progress in the past to and see how you are doing over a longer period of time.

Thrive is an app you need to pay for, its £5.99 per month, £14.99 quarterly or £49.99 yearly. obviously its no small thing to pay for a phone app, if its worth it would of course be completely down to you and your love of the app and your money. but personally for me? no i wouldn’t pay for this app.

It is a good app, however it isnt something i would pay £6 a month for, its too much money for what thrive is for me. I think that if you find all the relaxation tools useful and that the app makes a massive difference, then yes i think it really could be useful! but for me, the downsides just tip the scales for me.

i still suggest trying it out however if you can, even if just for a month because everyone is so different it may be brilliant and incredibly helpful for you.

Have you tried thrive before? or any other mental wellness apps?

Cath x

*i was gifted this product for review, this does not effect my opinion.

The Therapy Diaries – the fear of the end.

Hey there! so in 3 weeks time my therapy comes to a end, i got 16 sessions and ive almost had them all. And, i am really bloody scared for it to come to an end.

Ive had cbt therapy before, and i did really well and improved a lot while i was in therapy and then within 2 months i started going backwards and very quickly i was back to square one.

Ive improved a lot since i started therapy in september, and im really scared that it will all go to shit again. When i started therapy, i had basically completely given up all hope on ever getting better, on ever improving again and my therapist gave me the kick up the ass basically that i needed too start trying again.

I have done so well, i know i have but because of this i am terrified that i cant continue it if im not going to therapy weekly. I hate how you just get dropped like this, im going to have to fend for myself so to speak and im really worried i cant.

I expressed this to my therapist last week and when i left the session i felt as if you know maybe she is right and i could manage it by myself. I have the tools, i know what im doing right? but in the days since then, it all feels way too much, and im so worried this isnt going to work out.

Ever since i started therapy it has felt like this was my last chance, i dont feel like i can have another chance to get better. I feel like i cant do this again, recovery is so much, and im barely into what is years of work and i know that i just cant repeat this all over again. But that is also even scarier than normal, because if i do fail, thats it.

I feel so completely overwhelmed right now, i really wanna just hide away forever! maybe everything will be ok, but it doesnt feel like it will be right now.

Therapy is great, but no one talks about when you have to leave it!

Cath x

You dont have to reflect at new years.


Hey there! so, i was going to do a post reflecting on 2018 etc like im sure a lot of people are doing. And though there is nothing wrong in that, i suddenly thought “why am i doing this?” when, its the kind of post that if i read it would upset me.

Im sure im not the only one who really doesn’t like new years, the reflecting on mainly all these happy things, being super positive and very “wow! life is amazing!” works for some people, and is true for some people but it just isnt me and as someone who generally crawls into the next year barely held together i dont really want to explain why im so “thankful for everything ive done this year”.

And you see everyone and there mother doing it, this year has i am much more active on instagram, instagram is covered with people reflecting over there year via pictures and stories. Great, im glad you had fun but i didn’t leave the house for 6 months, i completely gave up all hope and just resigned myself to rotting away until i finally got off the therapy waiting list and my lovely therapist swooped in and told me to pull myself together and fight for what i want.

Now of course im glad she did that, but being in that situation in the first place isnt exactly fun and games. And the thing is we are surrounded with “new year new you”, “im going to travel/train/get married/have a baby in 2019”, “try this new diet in 2019!”. Its everywhere, but honestly its not needed.

If you are crawling into 2019 feeling like you have been fighting a war all year and your going from one battlefield to another, please know that you do not have to like new years, you dont have to reflect and just being able to drag yourself into another year is something in of itself.

2018 is the first year in many years that i can happily pick out a number of positives in actually, but also a lot of negatives and a lot of hard times. But in the end? Im not going to do any of that, i am going to walk into 2019 back onto the battlefield with the rest of us, maybe with one or two less scars than before and call that a win.

while im here, its also completely fine if your not doing anything for new years! you do not have to see it in if you do not want to/cant. There is no rule saying you have too, there is way too much pressure to see in new years drunk and shouting, theres no need it doesn’t change anything. It just means that you will start the new year with a headache!, of course go ahead and have fun if you wish, but if you dont want too you dont have too!

Remember these things ok?

Cath x